Being shy can be a result of genetics or learned behavior. Either way, it doesn’t have to hinder your social life or cause you to become sad or depressed.
The first thing to do is to accept yourself for who you are. There is nothing wrong with you because you don’t possess an outgoing personality. Shyness is just one of your traits and probably not the most prominent one, even though it seems so in certain situations. Accepting who you are won’t give your shyness a chance to undermine your self-confidence.
Shyness is not a bad thing in all situations. It can keep you from saying things that you wish you could take back later. The mouth can get us into such trouble sometimes.
Here are a few pointers to help you get past this challenge. That is truly what it is – a challenge, not a fault or barrier.
* Practice social skills with those you know well – This can be your brothers or sisters, for example. When you talk to them, try to get a good flow to the conversation. If they are doing something, ask them about what they are doing. Let the answers they give dictate what you will say next. Learn to pick up on verbal cues. You may have a natural curiosity about what they are doing and then you won’t have any trouble thinking of things to say.
* Start with your group of friends – If you don’t want to use your family, practice with the circle of friends you have already. You don’t even have to tell them that you are doing it. Work on starting a conversation, keeping one going, telling funny stories or jokes and what not.
* Perform activities that give you confidence – Maybe you are good at sports or drama club. Participating in activities that boost your self-confidence can give you just the push you need to meet your shyness head on.
* Practice in front of a mirror – Mirrors are good for many things. You can tell what your face looks like when you say or do certain things. Check to be sure you aren’t making goofy faces and then get going.
Are you prone to shyness? Own it! Don’t let it control you, but learn to deal with it and stop feeling awkward in social situations.